heres what needs to happen when you want something: start supporting it with your words. always speak in the direction you want to go and be very strict on this.
speak for your abilities daughters. speak for the possibilities. speak for the opportunities. speak for all that hasn't been discovered yet, built yet, been yet.
everything you see around you at one time was just an idea, a word.
say I think I can until it is second nature.
then see what happens.
i write this for my daughters and occasionally students who write me with questions. maybe someday i'll delete it all into the ether.
when the question is 'what is my path'
the answer is and will always be: the things that are deeply enjoyable to you are your path
when starting out one can have doubts and say - 'well how can that be - they seem small or unimportant or there are already others doing what i want to do and i havn't even begun' etc.
well all great masters Began.
and often when you look back you can see that what you really want to do has been in the background of your life in some way, because its always been interesting to you - so you're not such a beginner after all are you.
and lets be more specific about what enjoyable things do:
What is deeply enjoyable to you is either part of your greater project or an important activity to bring the mind into peaceful balance - and let me emphasize that peaceful balance is absolutely the most valuable asset you can have when it comes to happiness (which is success).
then there is this topic of 'what its worth':
You could say 'well the thing I enjoy is making collages - how am I going to make a living on that'?
well some people do make a living on that but making collages is either going to make you a living or it is going to clear your mind into an open sky where all your good ideas can come and make you a living. either way you are winning so for gods sake --- just do this thing that is interesting to you and just respect it
What if other people say what you enjoy isn’t important enough?
well Children this is one of my favorite topics - i'm so glad we landed here
To answer this I say: if it is important to you that means it is important.
other people are not there to give you permission or approve or propel you forward, you have your own inner propulsion system and thats called 'what i like to do', and only you can do that.
sometimes you meet a bunch of people who enjoy it too and then you have a lot of fun but most the time you just focus quietly on it because its fun for you in the quietness of your heart and thats IT.
Take satisfaction in your own satisfaction. Take enjoyment in your enjoyments.
Let other people do that also - especially let them do that.
understand that your gifts will gradually unfold throughout your whole life, as they are meant to - not to bloom all at once but a series of blooming phases - you wouldn't yell at a rose bud and say "bloom faster!".
well you are too that beautiful mysterious garden just waiting to open many times, at just the right time, every time.
i write this for my daughters and occasionally students who write me with questions. maybe someday i'll delete it all into the ether. i type fast as hell and thats just the speed i like which is why its never going to be a masterful piece of writing but it will say what it needs to say. thank you
shooting Anna in EF and archive VTG this week
beauty for beauty
also thinking about making the EF big vegan fur again for our customers
and the knee high boots again
for the love love love for the love
also i think we should make these boots for our customers again
but w a 3" heel this time
Topic 1: No Limitations
Daughters the first thing i want you to understand is that if there is something that you want deeply there are no limitations.
and it is very important to know what to do with other peoples opinions about what you want to do, no matter how 'expert' they are supposed to be. in fact a real expert will tell you that the scope of possibilities is actually infinite.
when other people have a limited view of what you are capable of - you must decide if you will let their perspective override your own. you have to ask - why is their perspective more sacred to me than my own - why is their perspective more sacred than my desire to deepen my belief in myself and my abilities.
its very important to understand that other people are not the key to your abilities. they can inspire you, and they can give opinions and inevitably you absolutely must follow one thing: your belief in You.
other people are not here to give you permission to do it. they are simply other people, and you know what we do we wish them well with the deepest lovingness of our hearts - and then get back to believing in You.
many of the things we have in life today and things we see in other people around us were deemed 'impossible' by someone at some point. what does that say about other peoples opinions you tell me.
the question is always going to be: do I follow Me or someone outside who has no knowledge of my completely unique process of unfolding here.
however if you do want to look outside for advice or opinions look at the endless words of people who did 'impossible' things first..... then don't look elsewhere! children what is the point of looking for advice from people who haven't done it themselves?
"when you have exhausted all possibilities remember this - you haven't" Thomas Edison
when your heart has a desire consider it done.
hold that in your mind please daughters and see what happens.
i write this here for my daughters and someday it'll go somewhere else right now its here
transformative power of clothing
wear your sequin dress with the long sleeves and plunging neckline for a friday night in with the family and watch the kids faces glow because a person can sparkle when she feels like it. wear the mens smoking jacket with black denims and stilettos to the party with messy hair. wear the sheer black mesh dress after the bath. pick out your favorite kimono after work.
dressing can be a freedom to emphasize everything as the special that it really is.
Recently a student wrote to ask some questions about how to start a business, get motivated, find path etc.
here's the summary of our conversation
Q: Whats your #1. advice for starting a business
Absolutely put Meditation into your daily routine.
Meditation is going to give you several things simultaneously and rapidly. We can talk about two here having to do with your question and then talk about some ways to meditate.
1. Accessing answers that only you have
the first thing you must understand is that you are an incredible talent and you have exactly all the tools you need inside. it is simply a matter of opening the doors to a quiet place within that holds powerful, calm answers. This quiet place is available to you at all times. It is accessed through the slowing and suspension of repetitive thoughts until only a deep breath of peacefullness remains.
Feeling anxious, depressed or unclear in any form is an indication that there is an opportunity to suspend thoughts and access this area of clarity, peace and creative power.
Meditation is simple direct access to that.
2. Thought Awareness, Thought Mastery
in business and anywhere you want to go in life - it it is absolutely essential to have a keen and continuous awareness of your thoughts and to know that they are all turned in the direction you want to go.
thoughts not only set your direction in terms of action they either build your energy or deplete your energy to move forward.
it is actually much bigger than that and you see this clearly through your meditation practice
A thought is like a dial that controls your life energy and your ability to surge with life force/enthusiasm/pleasure. thoughts either flow your energy in an exhilarating way or suppress your energy.
this can be noticed by thinking "I think I can" vs "I can't". one is energy flow. one is energy block. or thinking at length about something that you enjoy and observing how good that thought makes you feel, a range of peace and enthusiasm (flowing life force) - and then thinking about something that bothers you and watching what that thought does to your energy (depressed/anxious).
So if i can just as easily think a thought that makes me surge with energy and unleashes my creative power as I can think a thought that suppresses my energy - why would i ever think anything other than high quality, high-energy-flow thoughts.
When you surge with life force you are at your most powerful. the more life force flows through you the more inspired, clear and direct your actions become. And another thing happens that is probably the most profound: you enjoy the process of watching your business and your life unfold, wherever you happen to be along the way.
when you know this you are determined to clean out all energy depleting thought patterns and refine your thoughts to only those that serve you as the creative master you are born to be, visualizing and sculpting the masterpiece of your life.
Become a connoisseur of thoughts is what I am saying, on any area you want to enjoy in life, and watch what happens.
Meditation is going to give you many gifts and this ability to watch thoughts and choose which to keep and which discard is only one of them. you'll find so many gifts and they will continue to multiply.
How to meditate:
one way is listening to sounds. this can be done with the sounds around you, birds calling, cars, the sound of activity around you. Set a timer and just listen to sounds with your full attention from its start to its finish and then the next one that arises. As you listen actively, your thoughts stop because your focus is only on listening. This is all you need to do and it is a very simple practice.
This is where meditation/singing bowls are helpful. There are many ways you can play and use these bowls but looking at the most simple. This is a vessel that resonates continuous full sound into a tiny disappearing point and you can follow its entire length.
Strike the bowl and listen to the sound until it fades into a disappearing point, then strike it again. Time out 3 or 10 minutes of this and then increase your time to 20 minutes or as long as you want.
Initially your thoughts will interrupt your listening.
here you'll notice how the thoughts that come in make you feel/what they do to your energy.
the more you practice the more you're going to catch those thoughts that do not serve you in daily life and promptly discard them - because you'll become accustomed to peace resonating within from your meditation practice. peace is clarity. and like any other thing that we mastered, just the repetition of letting yourself go back to listening is all you'll need to do.
Remember that every time you strike the bowl and listen, you master your mind. Each time you go back to listening, you go back to your peace which is where all your wisdom comes from. This is a very quick process, because a quiet, calm, powerful mind is what you started and your natural inheritance.
Going back to what the quiet mind is: it is the well of answers, and it is the source of happiness, calm. Anyone searching for happiness – simply get into the habit of quieting your mind at will - and see what happens. Get into the habit of cultivating good feeling thoughts only – as a standard.
We are living in a very exciting time where many people around the world are using this tool and I imagine someday this will be one of the first things we teach our children the importance of practicing throughout life.
if you make the habit of taking the long view it is impossible to be anxious about anything for long because you understand that everything is in flux, that flux is freedom to change.
you can apply this to your life and you can apply this to your perspective on the world.
appreciating flux is opening the mind away from what feels fearful towards the what is possible.
lets look at the beauty of longview.
problems problems! everywhere you look is problems!
not for the creative mind taking the longview.
problems conceal opportunities. for creative mind this is the fuel of the engine. frankly the bigger the problem, the bigger the solution and someone is going to find it. the only speed barrier is how open the minds is around the problem (which is why meditation is one of the most powerful tools there is). listen to someones list of problems and project yourself away from that spiraling story of gloom and look at the bigger picture: look 3, 5, 10 to 15 years forward - the fact is someone is going to make the f*ucking lemonade out of the lemons, someone is going to solve this issue and likely with some great finesse - and it might as well be you.
lets look at plastic bottles piling up. one could look and throw hands up and say 'people are so wasteful!'. that may or may not be true. but one can look back into the beginning of the last century and see that the thought of carrying clean water so easily and accessibly on a vast scale would have been like a miracle to people 100 years ago, given people were drinking beer for lack of clean water in some places. so those plastic bottles were a real innovation which is why they were so prolific.
but whats interesting is not about how it happened or why or what it means. this is about perspective. are these bottles just Trash as an impenetrable fact? the answer is "what can we do with these"
so people put the bottles into recycled high tech fabrics, 3d printing technologies, building technologies etc. etc.
is that perfect? its right for right now and later there will be something better. its a step towards more innovation/creation is what it is
and lets look at perfection as a concept. perfection implies completion. perfection does not exist because the story does not end.
when one understands that, theres a distance that happens and a curiosity that happens. theres unlikely the emotional pull of fear or negativity because its an understanding of an ongoing process.
its understanding that yes, everything is in flux, and this allows appreciation for flux and the process of our evolution in products, services, technology. something is created, and then theres a downside and then something vastly better takes its place. thats the thrill for the person who appreciates the freedom that represents - to imagine, to create, even just to step back and watch.
so you get comfortable with problems understanding that they are simply an event on the way to a solution, a solution that will inspire another interesting idea and another thing after that
now lets take the longest view. look up into into the masterpiece of sky above, ever changing every moment. look out at the infinite sparkle of ocean. look into the unfolding stars and now into the quiet space within when you meditate and just watch.
long view is a good view.
this is part of a series i'm writing for my daughters. this is where it is going right now. maybe someday i'll delete it all into the ether.
heres the thing about our little kimonos - and i write this because i can't believe how much enjoyment these simple pieces bring to own -
they're one of those great non-committal vehicles for prints
for people who don't wear a lot of prints they get to collect them for their weekends/saturday mornings and you know you answer the door or make your juice and look in the mirror + that whole experience is transformed into something more by wearing this little kimono
after work/before dinner theres a whole nice moment that happens when you pick which one you want to put on
you get to bring them on your trips and the photos are great not only because they are but because you remember ah theres that great kimono i brought on that trip and wore all over the place - beach, out to dinner etc. etc. and whichever kimono it was has even more of a magnetic pull in your heart now
then you get into wearing them out and about because they're again non-committal - you can take it off like you do a cardigan - its a way to arrive in some color and then take it off for the rest of the event/day at work or whatever, but still have it hanging on the back of your chair reminding you of something you can't quite place but feels good
then you give them as gifts and thats really fun to give to your friends, mamma, sister etc.. and man brides love to pick out which one for their friends and bridesmaids assembling a whole collection that people will actually use later and are really unique is a nice way to do it
anyway there it is
we love making these pieces for you thank you
customer service forwarded me a note from customer about dyes and processes.
this is a very relevant convo for many people out there so thought this could be helpful to publish info/response if interested. pls pardon the grammatical imperfections i type fast as hell and thats the speed i like to go. thank you for your question. e.
Thanks for your inquiry about fabrics and dyes. We use eco-friendly fabrics and processes whenever possible and always on the lookout for ways we can improve and suppliers of new and improved fabrics/processing techniques.
The industry can take a long time to change is some ways – but it has been great to see the improvements in recent years and how better things are becoming more easily available.
Materials we typically focus on:
Frequently there is debate about what is the best fiber or process and arguments across the industry about if something is better or not better. Some years we see something that is supposed to be the best new thing then get devalued due to another part of its process that is not so great. That’s a reality of the business and like anything else we just do our best and keep improving where we can and keep rolling with the new information as it comes out. The good thing is that everything is going in the right direction – and all the small improvements do add up to big improvements industry wide.
There is another important factor as well when considering dyes and processes: The modern customer. The modern customer typically needs garments to be easy to care for (machine was etc).
Vegetable dyes, for instance (which are of a lot of interest to us personally) – can be very problematic for customers because they fade/do not retain color well in machine wash and can have issues with crocking, so we carefully balance when and where to offer vegetable dyes.
In the future, maybe customers for vegetable dyes will increase and people will be more receptive to the qualities of these dyes – which will be great.
One area the industry has issues in is excess fabric being milled each year.
Production/where and why:
This business has a lot of moving parts and one of the pleasures is watching how it and the customers evolve. As the customer gets more interested in better fibers and processes, so the market shifts to create more. Its a great ride and we're happy to do our best for our customers as it happens, continually learning and evaluating and reevaluating to offer the best to our customers.
Thanks again for your note, please let us know if theres ever anything we can do for you.